I would like to preface this by sending out many thanks to Mike Beers for contributing this to my week of honoring the fathers and husbands in our conscious parenting community! I’ve been blessed to dialogue with Mike for several months now. Although I have not met him in person, I can say that he has influenced my choices for the better and I am a more informed mother, a better wife and a more compassionate person because of his influence. Thank you Mike!
I’m an opinionated, sarcastic, geeky, imperfect attachment daddy. My wife and I have a 3.5 year old daughter. I
've learned a lot, and followed my gut a lot in the way I have parented. Coming to the conclusion and acting as an attachment parent comes easy for me. I love my daughter more than anything. I couldn 't fathom hitting her or yelling at her out of my own frustration with her developing mind.
Biggest Challenge of Attachment Parenting
I want to be around her constantly, but I also want to accomplish things. Accomplishing things, while tending to my daughter
's needs, is not always easy.
Next Challenge of Attachment Parenting
Then, there are the small but meaningful differences in opinion between my wife and me. I try to be supportive of her, but sometimes we have a different opinions and priorities of how things should be handled. I
'm definitely learning more every day on how to better balance the parenting and the marriage. Luckily, we have the same goals.
I think support is the most important thing in an attachment parenting family. That has included defending each other to extended family. For example, we skipped Christmas with one side of extended family because I was asked prior to the party if my wife could nurse our one year old in another room. If we are all family, we should not be shunning family behavior like that.
The attachment parenting road is not always an easy one. Ties to people I thought I would always be close with have been broken or damaged, because I learned things about myself along the way that they didn
't agree with.
In the end, for me anyway, it is all worth it. I can
't imagine being happier by placating others. Being true to my instincts and to my wife and daughter has made me the happiest, and I 'll continue to do that. No matter what obstacles I may come across.
Mike lives in
with his beautiful wife Nicole (check out her handcrafted diaper cover etsy site here) and their daughter Eisley. Thanks again Mike!! Michigan