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Information On Milk Alternatives

When you were little, it wasn’t a question - When someone referred to milk – it undoubtedly came from a cow. 

While whole cow’s milk is still the fluid of choice for many parents of toddlers and their families, some moms and dads prefer to choose something else. Reasons for choosing something other then cows milk vary and may be because of a sensitivity, dietary restriction (such as vegan), environmental, or health reason(s).

I choose not to drink cows milk for many reasons, but that’s another post. Here I wanted to offer information on the many choices we have today.



A Note on Plant Based Milks

I will use the term “milk”, but in essence plant based “milks” are not technically milk since milk comes from mama mammals. They are alternative beverages made from seeds of various plants.

Most have very distinct tastes, colors and textures. All plant based milks are cholesterol free and contain little saturated fat (with the except of coconut milk).

The down side with plant based drinks is that some can be loaded with sugar. Another possible negative aspect can be that there is a less effective vitamin D used in these milks compared to animal based milk. Specifically, animal milk contains vitamin D3 where most plant based milks contain vitamin D2 which the body is less able to utilize. Personally, my family and I take vitamin D3 supplements (this is the only supplement I adamantly support) so it is not an issue for me. (Here is the vitamin D3 supplement I give to my 3 year old...i give her three instead of two daily)   

Overall, plant based milks vary in their nutritional content based on how the beverage is fortified. Always good to check out the nutrition information!

Let’s check out our options!


Soy Milk

Currently the most popular alternative to dairy, soy milk was one of the first widely available plant based milks. There are tons of different options/flavors and organic is usually available at most supermarkets.

Generally, the thick, creamy consistency of soy is most like traditional cows milk. However, if you opt for the unsweetened option then you may notice a slight bitter taste. 

Many people I have come across give a wag-of-the-finger when it comes to soy products do to the controversy of phytoestrogens (or isoflavones). There is research still being done and we are continuing to learn more about this issue.

Do I avoid organic soy products? No, I don’t. But I enjoy other options in combination to organic soy.



click here for an easy home made almond milk recipe
Almond Milk

Almonds are one the healthiest nuts you can eat and may be one of the more nutritious milk alternatives that is available (just watch out for added sugars of course).

Popularity for almond milk is growing fast. Low in calories and high in nutrients (particularly the antioxidant vitamin E), almond milk is light in flavor and still provides a nice creamy consistency. It can easily be made at home as well. (Here is just one of many recipes you can find online)

Although almonds are generally high in protein, almond milk is not (about 1-2 grams). If you are looking for protein, you are better off just eating almonds.

Also worth noting, almond nuts are a goitrogenic food. This is a natural substance in fruits, grains and veggies that can interfere with healthy thyroid function in some people (mostly in large doses). Cooking food inactivates much of the goitrogens, but if you are especially sensitive or have hyprothyroidism you may want to limit or eliminate this option.



Coconut Milk


The saturated fat in coconut milk is made up of short-chain and medium chain fatty acids which the body quickly turns into energy. Consequently, even though it can be considered high in saturated fats, coconut milk can actually aid in weight loss due to its stimulating effects on metabolism.

Half of the medium-chain fatty acids in coconut milk are made up of lauric acid which is anti-viral, anti-bacterial, anti-microbial and anti-fungal – coconut milk may help boost the immune system!

Drinking straight coconut milk can carry some large numbers in the calorie department – so you can opt for coconut milk beverages. Check out SoDelicious brand which even carries an organic choice. (I have read that this is an ideal choice for nursing mothers who have babies that suffer from a daily allergy.)

I am a huge proponent for coconut oil, but have never tried coconut milk or coconut milk beverages – after doing this research, I’ll be buying some this weekend!


Rice Milk

Rice milk is the most hypoallergenic of all milk substitutes. This alternative milk is processed from brown rice.

Rice milk can be a great choice for adults, but typically not for toddlers or children due to its low  amounts of protein, fat, and calories.

Only one cup of rice milk contains over 30 grams of sugary carbohydrates (@ 4 times the amount found in soy milk) – this might not be the most suitable choice for diabetics.

Coffee drinkers may not enjoy the rather thin consistency of rice milk.

Personally, I have never tried rice milk and I really don’t plan to. I’m not sure, but it just doesn’t appeal to me.


Hemp Milk

An excellent source of protein, hemp milk is creamier and nuttier than soy or rice milk. It is also rich in healthy omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids (which promote hearth health and memory).

Although hemp milk is completely legal here in the U.S. (and does not contain any THC due to manufacturing from seed not the plant itself), if you purchase this milk it is most likely to be manufactured by our northernly friends in Canada.

Protein and fat content are a bit lower than the cows milk, but higher than other grain milks – which make it a very good choice for toddlers.


Goat Milk

The only non-plant based milk on the list –it is an excellent alternative to cows milk for toddlers because it is similar to the composition of human breast milk more then the other options commonly available. 

Goat’s milk has more calcium, more naturally occurring vitamin A and D, and potassium then cows milk. Another awesome point, goats are not treated with growth hormones! Yippie!

The taste of goats milk is somewhat more tangy. I’ve given this to my daughter in the past and she completely refused it, however, it was whole goats milk – not the 2% which they also have available in stores as well.



Conclusion

Does your toddler need milk to achieve the calcium and fat levels needed in their diet – absolutely not. In fact, there are much healthier options that we can choose in which our bodies can utilize calcium better. But again, that is another post completely. (Check out 15 Non Dairy Foods High in Calcium)

For healthy kids, milk is just a drink – it is not an exclusive source of daily nutrition. In fact, too much milk (more then 16 oz per day) may place children at risk of vitamin deficiencies (such as low iron levels).

Obviously, for any child who is not growing in a typical manner or has issues with food allergies (or other dietary restrictions) you would want to speak with a Nutritionalist (who will be able to impart much more information then an average pediatrician).


I will leave you with this short list to learn more! Enjoy –



Sh*t Crunchy Dads Say


 Yes!! Finally!!!!

I had emailed Genevieve from the Mama Natural Show in late March regarding doing something similar to her Sh*t Crunchy Mamas Say but instead referencing Crunchy Dads out there.

I was inspired after posting An Interview With a Crunchy Dad.

Here is her video – it is as great as I anticipated!!

Check out Mama Natural here. Curious about Sh*t Crunchy Mamas Say? – check out Part 1 and Part 2.

7 Vital Reasons NOT to Yell at Kids

Here’s a confession: I have yelled at my daughter.

Ok, screamed.

I’m definitely not proud of it. It fills me with shame when I think about it actually.

It doesn’t happen often. I do make a conscious  effort not to raise my voice to my daughter (or anyone for that matter).

However, when a parent makes a conscious choice not to yell at a child, the situations that might bring it about don’t disappear all of a sudden.


For me, the feeling normally happens when we’re in the car and my 3 year old is crying about something I have no control over at the moment. In general, when my daughter is in distress I am able to embrace her and talk to her eye to eye. In the car, it’s not something I am capable of.

There’s no magic solution, but you are able to substantially reduce the risk once you consciously make the decision to pursue an alternative response to your anger or feelings.

The times I have yelled or screamed at my child has taught me exactly why I try never to do it again in the future.


Here are 7 reasons I’ve learned not to yell at kids:


It Doesn’t Change Behavior

I’m not sure if you’ve notice this, but I sure have. If I do happen to lose it– it never changes my child’s behavior. I would have to admit, it only exacerbates the situation…which only leads to even more frustration! Ahhhhhh!


Relief is Only Temporary

Yelling or screaming only work in that moment (if you manage to make it work at all). Just like a bully, it is used to intimidate those into compliance – most likely making children feel anxious, worried and scared.


It Weakens Your Influence

Yelling may actually cause your child to become more disruptive… It can drive a wedge in your relationship – making your child feel embarrassed, ashamed, and confused that the person who loves him/her the most is acting in such an unloving way towards them.



It Presents You as a Terrible Role Model

Hello! Children model behavior, it’s probably one of the best things they do. If your child frequently acts in ways that you can’t stand – there’s a good chance the person to blame is YOU!

Yelling only perpetuates the cycle.


It is Graceless

Can you imagine what you look and sound like when you’re yelling at your kids.

I bet it ain’t-none-too prutty.

Take a deep breath and don’t react. Instead, act with meaningful intention.


It’s Demanding

Yelling is an expression of frustration – taking a child’s behavior personally. Not only is it stressful to you, but stressful for your kids. It’s bad for your health!


They Tune You Out

When you are yelling all of the time, children will learn only to listen to you when your voice is raised. In other words, a child will learn that unless you’re shouting, you must not really mean it. Before you know it, you’re voice will be gone!!




Some good reads on gentle parenting:


The Parenting Passageway – Gentle Discipline


Confessions of a High Heel Wearing Hippie Mommy – On Spanking


Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources


The Parenting Vortex – Gentle Discipline 101


Authentic Parenting – Eleven Steps for Healing and Restoring Peace After Being Harsh With Your Child


Novel Mama – Golden Rule Parenting

What Natural Childbirth Says About You


 
Sure, there were an ample amount of people in my life that weren’t shy suggesting that I was half crazy for not wanting an epidural with my second pregnancy.
 
I remember talking to friends and coworkers – all of which lent the helpful advice that childbirth without an epidural is ludacris and anyone who willingly chooses to opt out is simply naively brave – wishing me the best of luck, of course.
 
One of my reasons to attempt a natural labor and birth was because I had gained a tendency to favor the natural way of doing things since my first daughter was born. With my first labor/delivery, I was unknowledgeable about what interventions were to be expected in a medicated labor (ex. epidural or induction). I also had no comprehension of the risks those interventions carried for me and my baby. I was mainly focusing on what clothes to buy, what color to paint the nursery and what to register for at Babies-R-Us.
 
There was no one in my life that talked to me about natural labor and birth. Not even my OBGYN.  
 
That’s the thing about learning – it’s hard to unlearn and go back to the person you were before.
 
With my second pregnancy, willingly requesting drugs during labor wasn’t something I would choose anymore. There were aspects about birth that I had learned since then.
 
Whatever a woman decides, it is essentially her choice – however, there is value in researching both options (especially for first time moms) so you are able to make an educated choice. 
 
The choice for at least trying a natural childbirth reflects a certain understanding.


 
 
You Understand that Interventions Add Risk

 
When choosing natural childbirth for my second baby, I did so because I understood that any artificial interruption, even with the best intention, would add risk to both me and the baby.
 
Of course, having a natural childbirth doesn’t mean swearing off all medical interventions in absolute terms. Circumstances may arise when such interventions become life-saving and I am grateful that those interventions are available.
 
Though, lessening the discomfort of contractions was not something I was willing to add risk, however incremental or acceptable they are.
 

The following is a brief list of certain risks that accompany the use of epidural medication during labor:
 

An increase in the length of the first and second stages of labor[*]
 

Decrease in uterine performance (during oxytocin-stimulated labor)[*]
 

An increased risk of instrumental vaginal birth[*]
 

More operative intervention[*]
 

An increased risk of developing maternal pyrexia (fever)[*]
 

A risk of dural puncture (up to 3 out of every 100 women)[*]
 

Increase in maternal hypotension[*]
 

Increase in urinary retention[*]
 

Increase in oxytocin administration[*]


Increased risk for cesarean section for dystocia (three- to six-fold increase)[*]


General risks include:[*]
 

Allergic reaction to the anesthesia used

Bleeding around the spinal column (hematoma)

Drop in blood pressure

Infection in your spine (meningitis or abscess)

Nerve damage

Seizures (rare)

Severe headache

 
You Understand Medicine Passes to the Baby
 
 
An epidural is not an actual medicine; instead it’s the process in which drugs are administered into the body.   
 
The medication will be injected just outside of the sac of fluid around your spinal cord (the epidural space). [*]
 
The drugs administered via epidural are a combination of local anesthetics and short-acting lipid-soluble opioids (usually a combination of narcotics such as fentanyl and sufentanil).[*][*][*]
 
When choosing a natural, drug-free labor, a newborn eliminates the risk of being affected by these narcotics.
 
This means no additional risk of not being able to stabilize heart rate. No added risk of allergic reaction. No added risk of respiratory complications.
 
 
 
 
You Understand Pain is Not Without Purpose
 
 
 
With my first labor, I attempted to avoid the pain when I got the epidural. Midway through, the medication wore off and the pain was horrendous.
 
I was tethered to an IV. I was wrapped up in a fetal monitor. I was inserted with a catheter. I was attached to a hollow wire located in my spine. Laying on my back with limited movement – the only option I had was to ask for more drugs…and hence more risk for myself and my baby.
 
I promised myself that I wouldn’t willingly put myself in that position again.
 
When I found out I was pregnant again, I decided that I would do everything in my power (by researching, preparing physically and mentally) not to find myself in that position again.
 
I remembered what the contractions felt like before the epidural, and honestly, they weren’t unbearable. It was only when I was required to be still, on my back, that they were intense.
 
It was only when I didn’t have the gradual experience of pain that it felt extreme. Imagine going from 1 to a TEN THOUSAND on the pain meter once the drugs in the epidural wore off!
 
In my experience, the purpose of pain during labor was a profound connection and communication with my body and my mind.
 
I moved a lot. I didn’t lay down for very long periods of time. I rocked around. I breathed, deeply.
 
If you look more deeply into what those actions were doing you will see and understand – the pain made me stay vertical and helped the daughter’s head down, it kept my oxygen levels high. It allowed me to find natural pain relief through my own reckoning. 
 
 

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My first daughter acted as a catalyst for so many great things in my life. In experiencing a medicated birth, I was given the opportunity to choose a different path.
 
I was given the opportunity to learn that I must rely on myself to place the effort into choosing the safest and healthiest choices for my life.
 
 
One can anticipate that events will happen during labor that is going to be unexpected and you will have to adjust your plan or even throw it out the window completely.
 
In the end, it’s not about choosing natural birth or pain medication. It’s about agreeing that it is a considerable decision that carries significant consequences.

6 Life Lessons Learned From My Backyard

People spend thousands of dollars on spiritual retreats to spas or resorts– funny how life’s lessons are as close as our backyard...

Lesson 1: Through death and through life, our function in life is eternally evolving.

Once an old, steel electrical pillar – we made second use to house baby birds during spring

Lesson 2: Never be too proud to ask for help

Elizabeth has now mastered the art of swinging high, but not after asking for help from the people she loves. Great Lesson.

Lesson 3: The deeper I know myself, the clearer I understand others. Accept people for who they are.

Ferns symbolize sincerity towards others. We have a fern ‘garden’ near the steps of our deck.


Lesson 4: If you want to feel rich, simply count all of the things you have that money can’t buy.

Playing barefoot with my family in the backyard makes me feel so blessed and rich.

Lesson 5: Live with purpose


We watched ants work diligently for weeks on these Peony buds, opening them up to full bloom


Lesson 6: Life will not present problems without solutions.


This small birth bath has a little angel on the edge. For a lot of people angels represent divine communication. It’s important to remember God is always talking to us, not in voices, but in thoughts, impulses and happenings. The message is, “You are loved. Life is not as bad as you think. You can make things better.”

BEWARE of Sanctimommy

Criticism is a misconception.

When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person;
it merely says something about our own need to be critical.

- Unknown



It is difficult to determine who the first mom was that was so lucky to be labeled as a ‘sanctimommy’.  Making an educated guess, I bet it was somewhere in a place where assaulting others under the veil of anonymity reigns supreme: the internet.

So what/who is a sanctimom exactly?


Definition

Sanctimommy: (noun) refers to a person, usually female, who judges perceived faults in the parenting of others with a condescending tone. This is sometimes done in a fashion that provokes anger.


Dropping the fancy definition: Someone who judges and criticizes the hell out of others.

How do we deal with these horrendously, judgy creatures?

Easy, really – two ways.

One, you realize that destructive criticism only stems from insecurity.

Second, and most importantly, recognizing we all have the potential of becoming one!


This is important because once we recognize that our own judgment comes from our insecurities we can deal with others criticism more easily because we know it is coming from the same insecure, anxious place. We can stop reacting to others who judge us, and instead show compassion because they are people who suffer from their own insecurities.   


It’s not about our parenting choices, judgmental moms or criticizing comments at all – it’s about you. It’s about being confident and secure.  


In my experience, it seems that this term is applied solely to mothers who do anything “non-mainstream” and that is severely limiting. Thinking only one “type” or “style” of mother has the potential to morph into the loudly critical “sanctimommy” reduces our awareness that we all have latent judgments of other’s parenting choices. Instead of looking outward, pointing a figure and labeling others as judgy sanctimommies, we should look at ourselves and make sure we are dealing with our own ideals constructively. This will ultimately lend in the ability in accepting ourselves unconditionally and give us the ability to deal with criticism in our life like water off the camels back (I think that’s the term I’m aiming for).


Even the most seemly non-judgemental of us struggle with our inner-sanctimommy and that’s ok. The loud, squeal of judgment should act like a light bulb to tell us that we have unresolved issues to deal with.


Let me be the first among my fellow mothers to step forward, offer a truce and say that I am sure that I have unthinkably made comments about parenting differences that might have been “sanctimommi-ous”:.


And to my friends that have bourn the brunt of my sanctimommy-ous-ness, let me say: You are doing a great job. I think your kids are awesome and my daughters love to play with them. Thank you for dealing with my shortcomings.  I am grateful for you in my life and what I have learned from you.


Motherhood, if nothing else, provides a host of brilliant opportunities to grow, love and nurture – not only our children but ourselves.

Embrace criticism with compassion for the other person, for their words come from a volatile place. Make sure to deal with your own inner-critic to spark the growth needed to become a better person, mother and friend.  

Concerns on Using Polysorbate 80 in Vaccines

Poly-SOR-bate 80 (polyoxyethylene sorbitan monooleate or Tween 80) is an amber-colored, slightly bitter tasting liquid used primarily as an emulsifier in many food products, cosmetics, vitamins, medicines and …vaccines.

There are some concerns with the use of Polysorbate 80 in vaccine administration. Here are a few:

MSDS

According to the Material Safety Data Sheet (MSDS) for PolySorbate 80 there is no information available regarding carcinogenic, mutagenic, teratogenic, or developmental toxicity effects. [1]


Important to note: the lack of information means that the studies have not been performed or have been inconclusive.

The MSDS toxicity information addresses ingestion and inhalation only. It does not address injection.

Here is a list of vaccines that contain Polysorbate 80 [2]
DTaP (Infantix)
DTaP (Tripedia)
DTaP (Kinrix)
DTaP-HepB-IPV (Pediatrix)
DTaP-IPV/Hib (Pentacel)
HPV (Gardasil)
Influenza (Fluarix)
Influenza (Flulaval)
Pneumococcal (Prevnar 13)
Rotavirus (RotaTeq)
Tdap (Boostrix)


Taken directly from the MSDS (last updated NOV 2010):



"Special Remarks on Chronic Effects on Humans:
May cause adverse reproductive effects based on animal test data. No human data found. May cause cancer based on animal test data. No human data found. May affect genetic material (mutagenic)"[1]



Immunocontraceptive

Here’s a strange one -

A patent for a vaccine that would decrease the ability for fertility in animals (which can be found here -submitted by the University
of Georgia Research Foundation) “preferably includes Tween 80 (Polysobate 80)”. [3]

The patent immediately goes on to site the book “The Theory and Practical Application of Adjuvants” after declaring Tween 80 as a preferable ingredient. This book lists the benefits and pitfalls associated with the use of different adjuvants. Studies include such problems as isolation, adverse reactions and practical applications.[3][4]

At least there is a practical application for it - decreasing fertility?!  


Permeability of the Blood Brain Barrier


The blood-brain barrier (BBB) is a paradox. On one hand, it protects the brain from that would otherwise be a constant systemic barrage of noxious substances. On the other hand, it prevents, in large measure, the delivery of therapeutic agents to patients with brain tumors. [5]

That is why Polysorbate 80 is used in pharmacology to assist in the delivery of certain drugs or chemotherapeutic agents across the blood brain barrier. Nanoparticles are coated in polysorabate 80 and without the use of this type of nanoparticle, the drugs would not be able to cross the barrier and yield effect. [6]

You may think this is a strech. What does nanoparticles coated in polysobate 80 have to do with polysorbate 80 in vaccines? Surely the amount of polysorbate used and the mechanism is different. Unfortunately, it it known that polysorbate 80 causes BBB disturbance at intrevenous systemic doses as low as 3 mg. [6]


I encourage you to learn, read, research, and talk about wellness. Take responsibility for your choices and actions by understanding and making decisions with intent.



This post reflects the research and concern that I have about vaccination.  It doesn’t represent my opinion of people who choose to vaccinate.  Please know that, while my family has made this decision, we respect the right of all parents to choose to vaccinate if they feel this is best for their child.  I don’t have all the answers.  Most of us don’t.  We’re all in the same boat in that we need to make the best decision we can with the information we have.  And, ultimately, I believe that the Divine is in control – what is meant to be will prevail, no matter our decision.



References:

[1] Material Safety Data Sheet (MSDS) for PolySorbate 80 (http://www.sciencelab.com/msds.php?msdsId=9926645)


[3] ‘Fertility Impairing Vaccine And Methods of Use'
This application claims the benefit of U. S. Provisional Application No. 60/070,375, filed January 2,1998, U. S. Provisional Application No. 60/071,406, filed January 15,1998

[4] Duncan E S Stewart-Tull. The Theory and Practical Application of Adjuvants. 1994 (http://www.lavoisier.fr/livre/notice.asp?id=OKLWR6AARLOOWI)

[5] Robert Quencer & Edward Neuwelt. Advances in the Understanding of the Blood Brain Barrier in Neuro-Oncology. AJNR. 2002 Vol 23: 1807-1810

[6] J Kreuter. Nanoparticles and micorparticles for drug and vaccine delivery. Journal of Anatomy. Dec 1996; 189 (503-505)